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I got the sweetest, most magical little package in the mail yesterday.  Really, this tops them all and I really think magic was involved.  I had asked the Magic Fairy Lady to make a little group of Victorian siblings after more than a year of admiring her creations.  I sent her a picture of each child and a very brief list of color preferences and enjoyments and this is what she created a sent to me.

A Box of Magic

Everyone is captured so wonderfully.  Laurel is often found pushing someone around in the doll stroller.  Oh, the miles that thing has on it.  I didn't mention this, but the Magic Fairy lady made one for her little doll to ride in!  Roan has the tiniest little branch gnome with a sweet little face and he has a boat.  Roan has been telling me repeatedly how he is going to make a boat when he is nine.  This is something that just came up in the last few days, and, magically, his little figure arrived with one.  Willow is ever herself in her favorite color holding her sweet doll with wee little arms reaching out.

Magic Fairy Trio

I told the older children that these little people are the same as Ma's china shepherdess in the Little House books.  They are a memory for me to hold onto when my children are grown and living across the street or working on the railroad, as they say they will do.  Laurel will be a world traveler, I imagine.  But, yes, a memory of these simple and sweet early years with all of us together.

Laurel and her Stroller

I have been reflecting on this a lot lately. I have to be mindful to avoid being too sentimental around Roan, as he is so sensitive and sweet that he gets very sad that he is not three any more.  I've been reading Creative Discipline, Connected Family and, while it is fairly light-hearted, mine has been heavy with the weight of mothering.  Maybe the gravity--that is a bit better way of saying it.  It took me a long time to work out that I grew up with very few ways of coping with difficulty, other than to start crying and hope someone would swoop in and fix things.  Of course, those things very seldom work (they do for broken windows on cold days, though!).  It is an ongoing lesson to learn to make my own merriment to pull from when it starts to feel dark and lonely.

And so I have started to be very conscious of my role as a model for how my children will handle their own lives years from now.  I am teaching them to parent as I learn my own way.  I am teaching them how to act when things go wrong or are uncertain.  They are learning patience and resourcefulness from me, just as I learned (or didn't).  Our daily quiet times teach them to look inward for nourishment and appreciate stillness.  Our lessons teach joyful connection and discovery, most of the time.  Looking at our work here together as part of a sacred whole is what keeps things going even when we are far from our ideal selves.

I can see evidence of this as Willow works with Laurel to keep her busy and happy and still do her own playing or work.  She is already practicing!  I can see it as I help Roan to learn good manners for making requests--he used to make no requests, then do them in sort of a sideways way, and now he makes them very assertively!  Time to learn balance.   I can see the developmental mirror in Laurel as she sings all the songs we have in our days, sometimes cobbling them together in the most humorous ways--"land of the silver birch, home of the beaver, 'neath heaven's dome till we go home, la bimmel, la bammel, la boom!"

And there's a sunset brimming over the sky
And there's a swallow teaching it's young how to fly
Up on high
See how fast the summer passes by. . .
~Vashti Bunyan

Comments

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elvenjoy
Feb. 28th, 2016 02:01 pm (UTC)
This is so lovely! <3
ext_1863175
Feb. 28th, 2016 04:42 pm (UTC)
What beautiful dolls! Who is the Magic Fairy Lady? I want to know her. : ) I enjoy all of your posts so much. Everything you write about mothering is authentic and meaningful. I think I've said this before, but it's worth repeating: Your blog should be published as a book.

Susan
impossibleway
Feb. 28th, 2016 08:23 pm (UTC)
Silwyn Gilbaud. She is here: http://magicfairylady.blogspot.com/ You can find her on Facebook, too, where she has more pictures of her creations. She has made some lovely videos, too. She does such wonderful, soulful work.

Thank you for your kind words. Maybe there will be a book someday. :-)
blakdove
Feb. 29th, 2016 05:19 am (UTC)
So lovely!
wifeofjoshua
Mar. 4th, 2016 10:57 pm (UTC)
Oooh, pretty dollies!! What treasures.
( 5 trees — Plant a Forest )

A Blessed Wilderness

It was just like being in heaven, being in there. In those days there was no road. The park was all a blessed wilderness. I have often thought what a wonderful people we would have been if we had wanted to keep it that way.

~Adolph Murie, biologist, on Denali


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