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On Connection

Since reading Hold Onto Your Kids again, I've been working diligently on connecting with my children.  It's something I've struggled with over the past year or so.  Last year was so difficult, survival was the only goal I felt like I could meet, most days.  We had many happy times, of course, but I felt like I wanted to crawl under a rock a lot of the time.  I would get through one hard thing, maybe catch my breath, and brace myself for the next hard thing, over and over.

BedtimeReading Heaven On Earth also helped to make things finally click for me.  I am finally really, really getting predictability into our rhythm.  I copied the bedtime routine from the book and it just worked, really worked.  And now it's something wonderful that we all look forward to each night.  Television is seldom in the picture at all anymore. We fall asleep to the light of the angel candle, having read in the Little House books and said a simple prayer. These are the things that will carry us through the years and I admit that I am now feeling like time is slipping away from me.

I remember Faith emphasizing connection in the Joyful Toddlers! class, but my main interest was working through the logistics of numerous young children.  Recreating a Lifeways-type environment in my home was my focus.  I wanted to include the children more in my work again and increase predictability in our days.  Both things are a never-ending task that always has room for improvement (isn't that all of life), but I have made significant strides since the class. And yes, my home, on most days, runs like a kindergarten and it suits me just perfectly.

I guess the idea of connection had to sit inside me for awhile before it could really start to make sense to me, like I had to get a handle on surface issues first.  We have rid ourselves of a lot of negative energy in the past couple months.  The burdens keep feeling lighter and the future seems less daunting, especially knowing what we have come through.  Human relationships feel more intuitive again and I find myself actually thinking before acting most of the time.  I'm not on auto-pilot.  I'm spacious, I have time, my energy is more protected.  My responses are self-assured and gentle.  I feel more patient and more able.  I'm still working hard and still tired, but I'm happier.

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ariellejuliana
Apr. 4th, 2015 03:09 am (UTC)
Can you link to the joyful toddlers class you took? I looked for it once and couldn't find it.

I really appreciate your parenting posts and learn a lot from them!
impossibleway
Apr. 4th, 2015 10:39 am (UTC)
Here it is: http://joyfultoddlers.com/tele-class/ :-) There is a lot of helpful information on her blog, too.
( 2 trees — Plant a Forest )

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It was just like being in heaven, being in there. In those days there was no road. The park was all a blessed wilderness. I have often thought what a wonderful people we would have been if we had wanted to keep it that way.

~Adolph Murie, biologist, on Denali


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